Tuesday, October 4, 2011

Update

Hello everyone...  I am sorry I have not been posting very much lately, or making it over to see your wonderful blogs...  I am going through a very tough personal time that is making it hard for me to even function, eat, smile, etc.  By the time I make it home from work, I can't exert any more energy.  I consider my online buddies very special to me, so I will tell you the basic outline of what has happened.  My husband, Danny Lagow, confessed on Monday that he has been cheating on me.  He did not tell me this on his own, I found a strange phone number on our phone records that he had been making a lot of phone calls and texts to.  He left me while I was at work on Monday and he has not spoken to me since (he's being a huge coward).  It has now been a full week, and I saw them holding hands in public together on Saturday.  I found out on my own that he has been talking to her for at least a year behind my back.  I am also finding a TON of unpaid bills that he was responsible for, so I am now dealing with that mountain of debt and the overwhelming feeling of lonliness.  The love I had for him is pretty much gone, and has been replaced with negative feelings, but it is still an adjustment for me seeing that we have been together for 10 years.  I hope to be up and posting soon because I love visiting your blogs and making cards.  Crafting is a very stress relieving outlet for me and I look forward to creating "masterpieces" again.  See you soon, I'm sure.

33 comments:

Anonymous said...

I love you Amy. It is hard to believe that someone we knew and trusted for ten years could turn out to be a complete creep and scum. You have so many people that love you for all that you are and are here for you through thick and thin.

Love,
Your Sis

Samantha J Designs (Wife2TJ) said...

(((HUGS))) I am so sorry you are going through this. I've been married 10 years and things aren't always perfect and this is something I always worry about :-( You are a beautiful person inside and out and I know you'll have the strength to get through this. If you ever need anyone to talk to were here! -Samantha

abusybee - DoubleClick Connections said...

So sorry, I am praying for you and keeping you in my prayers. Stay strong!
Carri~abusybee
www.doubleclickconnections.blogspot.com

Nita T. said...

I don't even know what to say. Your post brought me to tears and my heart ACHES for you :( But know that if I could I would HUG your hurt away.We are all here for you, and nothing your husband has done takes away from the amazing person you are. You are talented and beautiful and kind, and so, so loved. I am heaping prayers on you right now.

Sending you HUGE hugs and blessings,
Nita

DIANA L. said...

Amy, I am so sorry to hear this. I am keeping you in thought and prayer.
DIANA L.
http://dianamlarson.blogspot.com

Dr Sonia S V said...

Oh Amy I wish there was something I could do for you.Such a terrible ordeal. Let me hope and pray you find the strength to rise above the situation and face the world with your head held high!

Love
Sonia

Sunshine HoneyBee said...

Sorry to hear of your situation. Hope you have support of friends near you & online to help you thru this diffcult time. My hubby & I have been married 25+ yrs.
Melissa
"Sunshine HoneyBee"
http://CreatedbySunshineHoneyBee.blogspot.com

Amy said...

Oh Amy I am so sorry to hear this and will keep you in my thoughts and prayers! Try to keep your chin up as best you can. Amy

Thrifty Crafty Girl said...

You will get through this and be stronger, I'm sure of it. Hang in there and keep us posted on how you're doing.

Judie said...

Oh Amy. so sorry to hear this. Will hold you close and keep you in my prayers.

Judie

Cheryl said...

Amy, I'm so sorry to hear this! Having gone through this myself about 8 years ago, please know that you can make it! I will say prayers for you and you'll be in my thoughts. I can't say you'll ever totally understand all the reasons for this, as I never did. However, I can tell you from experience that you will survive. I'm so sorry.

Jayne said...

Amy,sorry to hear your news.Stay strong,I know you can get through this.
Hugs
Jayne

Peggy said...

Amy - there will be light at the end of this tunnel I am sure. I am so sorry that you have to go through this but remember if He leads you to it - He will lead you through it! Hugs to you, Peggy

Sheila said...

Sorry to hear that Amy. I went through my own little drama over the past five years, I got through it by diving into my crafting. It gave me a chance to focus on me, find who I was and what I really wanted. Keep pushing through girlfriend, you will come out in the end on top. Take care of yourself! Feel free to email me anytime if you want to talk, vent or just touch base with someone on the outside.

Sheila

Pamela said...

Dear Amy,
I am so sorry you are going through this. It has been years but I had a very similar experience and I just remember feeling crazy. You keep seeing things, hearing things, and even finding things that just don't make sense to you. If it helps, know you can't make sense out of crazy and you are not the one who is crazy.

Again, I am sorry!

Pamela
pammiej2002.blogspot.com

Grammy Goodwill said...

Oh, I am so sorry to hear this. I'm going to see if I can email you a private message. Take care of yourself.

Sandy from Ukiah said...

Oh Amy I am so sad to hear this... I will be praying for you my friend... sending you extra hugs from ukiah

Megan said...

So sorry to hear that! Keep your head up, things will get better!

Pam said...

Amy my dear friend I am so sorry! My heart breaks for you. I was crying while reading this and my hubby asked what is wrong so I told him, he wants you to know this Amy.

I know the pain that you feel is real, but do take time to take stalk of what it is you really lost, and what this other woman gained:

A man capable of incredible cruelty and selfishness. A person without honor, or compassion, a sneak, and a thief, weak, and self-centered. He left you a year ago, you just now found out.I know it hurts now, but your marriage was over a year ago. This pain will pass. And you will be better and stronger for it. If you want a real man, a Godly man in your life, Pam and I have prayed for you to receive the kind of man God sees you with and you deserve.

The love being given to you on your blog is far more real and tangible than what love you thought you had been receiving from this slimy low-life this past year. You are worth and worthy of so much more.

As a man I wish to apologize to you for the pain this man has caused you. He has no right to do this to you at all. You will be in our prayers. Ray

Amy, if you ever need to talk to me or even Ray, please email us. I don't know if we can really help you, but God can, and we do know how to pray. My email is
craftycards4u2 at yahoo dot com.

Please remember you have many many friends who love you. Hugs, Pam

Elizabeth said...

Amy,
I have been through your current walk. My ex had 10 affairs going on at the same time, one of them being my so called best friend. The pain was miserable. I felt as if I was just going through the motions of life. It was a death of a marriage and I grieved it in a similar manner as a death. (and you do go through the stages of grief)My crafting is what got me through it eventually. I have healed after counseling and a deep faith. Make sure you get yourself to a counselor so that you have a safe place to let go of your feelings. If you decide to get a divorce, investigate the lawyer before you hire one. There are good and bad laywers and my first lawyer made things incredably worse through his lies and decision making. I well keep you in my thoughts and prayers. http://visionsofpaper.blogspot.com/

Dawn said...

Oh my friend Amy! I am sooo sorry you are going through this! I went through pretty much the same thing 11 years ago! I was married to him for 24 years. Cheating husband, pretty much the whole marriage. I left him when my youngest turned 17
He then brain washed my adult children and they had no contact with me for 6 years. I missed out on the birth of 7 of my 8 grandchildren, and 6 years I will never get back. I don't know why some men are cheaters. My two sons grew up to be just like their dad. Disgusting! Anyway, with the Lord's help, support my my parents, my later boyfriend (who is now my husband), I made it through the worst time in my life. I am a stronger person for it now. I learned alot about myself. I know you are a strong person and you WILL make it through this! But right now you feel like your whole world is falling apart. Believe me, it is the worst thing in the world to be betrayed by someone you love and trust. Sweetie, I know you will be ok! I will keep you in my prayer always. Please email me if you need to talk, or somehow I can give you my phone #. Try to keep your chin up and take one day at a time. Hugs, Dawn

craftymrs said...

I'm so sorry to hear this :( Thinking of you!

craftymrs said...

I'm so sorry to hear this :( Thinking of you!

craftymrs said...

I'm so sorry to hear this :( Thinking of you!

Pendra said...

Amy I am so sorry to hear about your &*#(^*@ husband! I am your newest follower and don't know you very well, but I have found out in this blogland alot of very caring women! Stay strong, use your creativity and don't play nasty... you are better than that! Loneliness can get to you so remember us out here and talk to us!
Crafty Hugs,
Pendra
pendrasplace.blogspot.com

Karen said...

Amy, so sorry to hear about everything you have been going through. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

Karen
craftedwithlovebykaren.blogspot.com

Glora said...

Sweet, beautiful and talented Amy. I don't even know what to say as I feel mere words can not convey my feelings in reading this. My heart aches for you, my thoughts and prayers reach out to you and if I could I would be there, not to say a word, but to be a shoulder to cry on.

I hope you know that you are a precious daughter of God. He loves you with all his heart. I'm certain that he aches over what has happened to you.

You are beautiful inside and out. Don't ever question your value because you are truly precious and priceless. I'm glad to have gotten to know you through blogging. If there is ever anything that I could possibly do for you please let me know. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.

Much love, prayers and the biggest hug EVER!!!! - Glora

Pam said...

I'm back just to check in, and let you know nothing here has changed. You are still awesome, creative, gifted, wonderful and a beautiful woman. Hugs, Pam at http://craftycards4u2.blogspot.com/

callyannc said...

Amy I am so sorry to hear of your troubles! Please take care and I will keep you in my prayers! CallyAnn
http://callyanncraftycreations.blogspot.com

Sandy from Ukiah said...

Amy just wanted to pop over and let u know u are n my thoughts.

Nancy said...

Amy, was just able to sit and read some of my fellow blog sites and I am so very sorry for all you are going through. You are in my prayers and thoughts. Hopefully each day will bring you some peace and comfort. Hugs, Nancy

Susan said...

I'm so sorry to hear this Amy. I wish there was some way I could make the pain you are going through vanish. I've never understood how someone can cause another pain like this. Please remember Amy, things WILL get better for you. I know it's hard to believe that right now but it is true. You are a caring, loving person and if someone can't appreciate that then they don't deserve you. We are here for you if ever you are feeling down or lonely and we are all keeping you in our prayers. Things will get better! {{Hugs}}

Susan
cricutandgrasshopper.blogspot.com

Tina said...

My heart hurts for you!! Thinking of you and sending you great big hugs!!
Tina
xoxo